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The Characteristics of the Pious Wife by Shaikh Abdur-Razzaaq

Some Beneficial Points Taken from A Small Risaalah Titled: ‘‘The Characteristics of the Pious Wife’’ Written By Shaikh Abdur-Razzaaq Bin Abdul Muhsin Al-Badr (may Allaah preserve both the father and his son).

After praising Allaah and sending the peace and blessings of Allaah upon the Prophet, his family and companions, Shaikh Abdur-Razzaaq (hafidha-hullaah) stated:

To proceed:

Indeed, the subject matter of this treatice whose title is ‘The Characteristics Of The Pious Wife’, is not a statement and an address specifically (directed) at a young woman, who has consented to marriage and is desirous of acquainting herself with the characteristics of a wife, in order to furnish and prepare herself in fulfilling, accomplishing and perfecting these (characteristics).  Also, it is not a statement and an address specifically (directed) at a married woman who wishes for the characteristics of a pious wife, in order that she may observe and implement them in her life.  Likewise, it is not a statement and an address specifically (directed) at the woman who has deficiencies, in order that she may rectify that which she has of deficiencies, or to be be reminded of such deficiencies in order that she is made aware of it, alongside her precious married life.  Rather, it is a statement, an address and a reminder beyond all of that.  It is a reminder to the father who wishes for his daughters and those under his care to (be given) a good nurturing and an honourable life, and to enter into married life with that which is in confomity with what Allaah and His Messenger intend to (be the purpose) of marriage; and so that this Risaalah will be an aid for him in reminding his (daughters and those under his care) of the precise legislated Islamic regulations and qualities, which a young woman is to be nurtured upon.

This treatice is a reminder to the mother; (because) she is the shepherd in her house, the one responsibility for her household and the one that give directions to her daughters.   Many daughters are brought up with various mannerisms and characteristics acquired from the mother.  This treatice is also a reminder to the callers to (Islaam) so that they give concern and importance to this affair, and that they hasten in spreading these virtuous characteristics, praiseworthy manners and blessed endowments, so that they may become qualities preserved in daughters and the women in a society of Imaan and in the houses of the believers.  Particularly in this age in which we live in; (it is an age) in which the woman is attacked (in a manner) that has not taken place (against) her in the history of the previous ages, taking into consideration the numerous publications, the many channels and numerous ways designed to ruin the chastity, nobility, perfection, decoration, adornment, Imaan, manners and (distinguished virtuous qualities) of the woman.  Indeed in the past it was not possible for (those) corrupt calls, (those) desires guided by personal interests and (those) wrong ideas to reach the woman, except through limited channels; either (through) an evil companion or similar to that, and thus she is made to have contact with some of the evil characteristics/qualities.  As for today, the woman is made to have contact with all the filthy, vile and corrupt (affairs) of the world, whilst she is in the innermost part of her bedroom, without leaving her house. The woman sits in the innermost part of her bedroom in front of a screen or the internet, or she is (made to have contact) with some of the lowly magazines/newspapers, and thus her intellect, thoughts and heart are infiltrated with every corruption and evil.