“Well done for Refusing to Marry Him!” – Shaikh bin Baz
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
Entering into marriage is a matter not considered to be light or casual, rather the prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم guided the believers in understanding the issues of importance when deciding upon marriage, for certainly it is an affair of relevance in the religion. The husband requires a wife that will honour him and their household, and raise the children upon the correct morals and understandings of the religion, and similarly the wife requires a husband who will be upright and honourable in his religion and duties and rights to his family.
Regarding this affair, a practicing sister asked al ‘Allama Shaikh ‘Abdul-Aziz bin Baz رحمه الله تعالى regarding someone who proposed to her and so she said, “He is a relative of mine, however I refused his proposal for the following reasons: He does not perform his prayer in the congregation, he believes in magicians, he is younger than me in age by 2 years, he is illeterate and cannot read or write, and he spends a lot of time in gatherings [with his friends etc, always out]”.
So the Shaikh replied, “Well done for refusing him, the prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم stated, “If someone proposes to you who is pleasing in his religion and morals then marry him”, as for this one [you have mentioned] then he is not pleasing in his religion or morals, well done for refusing him, and I ask Allah He gives you a righteous husband better than him”.
Although the age factor may not be a considerable issue, clearly the fact that his ‘aqeedah was so distorted that he believed and accepted magicians was a damaging and destructive affair in his religion, as well as the fact that he was known for plentiful excursions amongst his friends in gatherings and outings, which may detract from his rights and responsibilites to his household.
Perhaps we may take admonish from this event, seek to rectify ourselves in our marital affairs – or future marital affairs – and recognise the rights and responsibilites upon us, be it the husband or the wife, beginning with the rectification ad solidification of ‘aqeedah and in understanding and learning the affairs of our religion, hence understanding the responsibilites in a better fashion.
May Allah grant us all success.
Source: Official Website of Shaikh Bin Baz.