بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
“The servant of Allah realises and affirms that if he pardons and behaves in goodness, it leaves him a heart full of goodness towards his brothers, and leaves it purified from any feelings of spite or [desire for] betrayal and treachery, or seeking revenge and desiring evil upon the one who wronged him. Instead, he will experience the sweetness of having pardoned and overlooked, a sweetness that increases in the short and long term, as well as offering other benefits [from that act of pardoning]. All of that being superior to the benefit gained from taking revenge by many fold, and so he enters into the statement of Allah in Surah Ale ‘Imran:104, ” and Allah loves the doers of good”, [al-Muhsineen].
So the individual becomes beloved to Allah, and becomes like the one who had a dirham [a form of money] taken from him and so Allah substituted it by blessing him with 1000’s of dinars [a form of money] later! And so he is pleased with that which Allah bestowed upon him the greatest of joy.
Thereafter the servant must recognise the opposite, that no servant has ever taken revenge for himself on a wrongdoing except that it leaves him with a feeling of lowliness and degradation [in of himself]. And if he were to pardon instead, Allah would honour him, just as the prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “Allah does not increase a servant who pardons except in honour”. And so the honour he obtains through pardoning is more beloved to him and more beneficial to him than the honour he obtains through taking revenge.
For indeed taking revenge is honourable on the surface [the individual percieves he has restored his honour and respect outwardly] however inwardly it leaves a feeling of lowliness and shallowness [having dropped to the level of the oppressor]. Whereas pardoning may leave humility and lowliness on the inside [feeling as if the oppressor has not been taken to account for his actions against you] however it leaves honour internally and externally for the person”.
[Part 3 to follow insha’Allah]