A Reminder from a beloved wife to her beloved husband
Allaah (The Most High) said:
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً إنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect. [30:21]
Assalaamu alaykum warahmatullaah;
Let this be the final reminder to the one I love for the sake of Allaah (The Most High) because he constantly aids me-In’shaa’Allaah- in that which will bring about success in this life and the next.
You are that responsible father of my beloved children and what an excellent father you are Maa-Shaa-Allaah! It amazes me that you are always prepared to sacrifice your wealth, time and effort for this family. You are always spending on us within your means; but what amazes me is that you give little consideration to yourself!
Lol! However, the displeasure is clearly shown on your face whenever we attempt to be a bit spoilt. Please overlook our weaknesses because your displeasure-expressed without words- is always enough to stop us in our naughty footsteps. O Allaah! Reward my beloved husband because he always gives priority to the sound upbringing of our beloved children and my welfare.
My dear husband, I look at you sometimes and smile behind your back-thanking Allaah (The Most High) for bestowing you to me. The children cannot bear your absence beyond your working hours due to the love, compassion and friendliness you always show. O Allaah! Keep this man upon steadfastness and reward him with abundant good in this life and the next…Aameen.
My dear husband, Allaah has given us good in abundance, so let us be grateful and not forgetful. You are not wealthy, but you are generous, modest, hardworking, self-sufficient and compassionate. This is the greatest source of joy for me and I will not exchange it for any other riches In-Shaa-Allaah! Perhaps I am always falling short, but you are never tired of giving advice with gentleness and compassion. Lol! But your command becomes very unambiguous when advice falls on deaf ears and we always-and all praise is due to Allaah-carry it out. Thereafter, you smile and find something else and direct our attention to more important things in this life. May Allaah bless you. So let me remind myself and perhaps some reminders for you as well….
It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “I was shown Hell and I have never seen anything more terrifying than it. And I saw that the majority of its people are women.” They said, “Why, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Because of their ingratitude.” It was said, “Are they ungrateful to Allah?” He said, “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you, she will say, ‘I have never had anything good from you.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 1052)
O Allaah protect me and all my Muslim sisters from being ungrateful to our husbands… Aameen
The Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said: “The best among you is the best towards his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.”
My dear husband! Continue to be from those who are good to their wives-May Allaah bless you. However, this does not mean that you leave me to demand things that are against the sharia of Allaah in the name of kind treatment; rather continue being kind to me and restrain me from anything that will ruin my aakhirah- with gentleness, compassion and clear advice. Please overlook my shortcomings-even though you do not make that known to me- rather you always give advice from that which Allaah has granted you of knowledge and wisdom- from the Book and the Sunnah, and the understanding of the pious predecessors.
May Allaah continue to unite our hearts upon Bir and Taqwah, and love and compassion for the sake of Allaah (The Most High). And may Allaah (The Most High) grant us patience, so that we are blessed in the afterlife. Allaah (The Most High) stated:
قُلْ يَا عِبَادِ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمْ ۚ لِلَّذِينَ أَحْسَنُوا فِي هَٰذِهِ الدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةٌ ۗ وَأَرْضُ اللَّهِ وَاسِعَةٌ ۗ إِنَّمَا يُوَفَّى الصَّابِرُونَ أَجْرَهُم بِغَيْرِ حِسَابٍ
Say (O Muhammad): “O My slaves who believe (in the Oneness of Allah Islamic Monotheism), be afraid of your Lord (Allah) and keep your duty to Him. Good is (the reward) for those who do good in this world, and Allah’s earth is spacious (so if you cannot worship Allah at a place, then go to another)! Only those who are patient shall receive their rewards in full, without reckoning.” [39:10]
And Allaah (The Most High) said:
الَّذِينَ يُوفُونَ بِعَهْدِ اللَّهِ وَلَا يَنقُضُونَ الْمِيثَاقَ
وَالَّذِينَ يَصِلُونَ مَا أَمَرَ اللَّهُ بِهِ أَن يُوصَلَ وَيَخْشَوْنَ رَبَّهُمْ وَيَخَافُونَ سُوءَ الْحِسَابِ
وَالَّذِينَ صَبَرُوا ابْتِغَاءَ وَجْهِ رَبِّهِمْ وَأَقَامُوا الصَّلَاةَ وَأَنفَقُوا مِمَّا رَزَقْنَاهُمْ سِرًّا وَعَلَانِيَةً وَيَدْرَءُونَ بِالْحَسَنَةِ السَّيِّئَةَ أُولَٰئِكَ لَهُمْ عُقْبَى الدَّارِ
جَنَّاتُ عَدْنٍ يَدْخُلُونَهَا وَمَن صَلَحَ مِنْ آبَائِهِمْ وَأَزْوَاجِهِمْ وَذُرِّيَّاتِهِمْ ۖ وَالْمَلَائِكَةُ يَدْخُلُونَ عَلَيْهِم مِّن كُلِّ بَابٍ
سَلَامٌ عَلَيْكُم بِمَا صَبَرْتُمْ ۚ فَنِعْمَ عُقْبَى الدَّارِ
وَالَّذِينَ يَنقُضُونَ عَهْدَ اللَّهِ مِن بَعْدِ مِيثَاقِهِ وَيَقْطَعُونَ مَا أَمَرَ اللَّهُ بِهِ أَن يُوصَلَ وَيُفْسِدُونَ فِي الْأَرْضِ ۙ أُولَٰئِكَ لَهُمُ اللَّعْنَةُ وَلَهُمْ سُوءُ الدَّارِ
*Those who fulfill the Covenant of Allah and break not the Mithaq (bond, treaty, covenant);
*Those who join that which Allah has commanded to be joined (i.e. they are good to their relatives and do not sever the bond of kinship), fear their Lord, and dread the terrible reckoning (i.e. abstain from all kinds of sins and evil deeds which Allah has forbidden and perform all kinds of good deeds which Allah has ordained).
*And those who remain patient, seeking their Lord’s Countenance, perform As-Salat (Iqamat-as-Salat), and spend out of that which We have bestowed on them, secretly and openly, and defend evil with good, for such there is a good end;
*Adn (Eden) Paradise (everlasting Gardens), which they shall enter and (also) those who acted righteously from among their fathers, and their wives, and their offspring. And angels shall enter unto them from every gate (saying): Salamun ‘Alaikum (peace be upon you) for that you persevered in patience! Excellent indeed is the final home!”
*And those who break the Covenant of Allah, after its ratification, and sever that which Allah has commanded to be joined (i.e. they sever the bond of kinship and are not good to their relatives), and work mischief in the land, on them is the curse (i.e. they will be far away from Allah’s Mercy); And for them is the unhappy (evil) home (i.e. Hell) . [Soorah Ar-Ra’ad: 20-25]
May Allaah grant us all success. Aameen