Haatim Al-Asam: I Gain The Upper Hand Over The One Who Argues With Me Through Three Affairs!
Haatim Al-Asam (rahimahullaah) said:
I have three traits by way of which I gain the upper hand over the one who argues with me! They (i.e. the people) said: “What are they?” He said: “I am happy when the one who argues with me is correct. I am sad when he is mistaken and I prevent myself from being disrespectful towards him.” This (statement of Haatim) reached Imaam Ahmad Ibn Hanbal (rahimahullaah), so he said: ”Glorified be Allaah and free is He from all imperfections! What a judicious man he (Haatim) is!”
[Source: Quoted by Shaikh Abdullaah Al-Bukhaari in At-Ta’aqqubaat As-Sareehah Alaa Risaaalah An-Naseehah Lid-Duktoor Ibraaheem Bin Aamir Ar-Ruhayli’ page: 48]