Three Types of Friends – The Freeloader Friend, The Friend of Pleasure Seeking and The Friend of Virtue

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy

The Freeloader Friend: Befriends you as along as he benefits from you – either by way of wealth or status, or other than that. If this benefit ceases, he becomes an enemy of yours- considers you as someone he does not knows and vice versa. How numerous are those who defame [others when they spend in] charity! When given from it, they are pleased; but if not given, they get angered. You see a bosom friend of yours- the most noble in your eyes and vice versa- asks you, one days, saying, ‘’Give me your book’’; so, you say, ‘’I’m in need of it today and will give it to you tomorrow’’; so, he shows you enmity. This is a freeloader friend.

The Friend of Pleasure Seeking: Befriended you not, except due [to the fact] that he enjoys sitting and speaking with you, and for the sake of chatting and socialising; however, neither does he benefit you nor does he benefit from you. Neither party benefit from the other, rather [you] only waste time. This is also a type of friend to beware of.

The Friend of Virtue:  Leads you to what beautifies [your character etc], forbids you from what dishonours [or discredits] you, opens doors of good for you and guides you to it. And if you make a mistake, he informs you in a manner that does not blemish your honour.

FreeLoader Friends are more numerous because the means of benefiting [others] are numerous; therefore, if you see that this man has not befriended you except due to receiving [worldly] benefit from you, then know that he is an enemy and not a friend. A Friend of Pleasure Seeking busies and distracts you with enjoyment through chatting [or spending the night in chatting], time wasting in the amusement parks and other than that. As for this type of person, there is no good in him; rather the one who should firmly cling to is the Friend of Virtue -the one who leads you towards every virtuous deed and forbids you from every evil. [End of Quote]

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[Source: Sharh Hilyati Taalibil Ilm’ pages 159-160’ by Shaikh Uthaymeen [rahimahullaah]. Slightly paraphrased]


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