Choosing to Sit In Gatherings of Evil And Then Claiming That You Hate It In Your Heart – [A Brief Reminder By Shaikh Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)]
In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestowed of Mercy
Chitchating is of two types: The chitchating that neither has any benefit nor any harm, and the chitchating that contains harm. As for the first type, it is not befitting that a sane person spends his time in that because it is tantamount to loss. And as for the second type, it is forbidden for him to spend his time in that because it is evil and haraam.
Therefore, whoever sits in an evil gathering, it becomes obligated on him to forbid the evil. And if they [i.e. the people] abandon the evil, then this is what is sought after. However, if they do not return to what is upright and persist upon their evil, then it is obligated on him to turn away [from their gathering], instead [of saying] what some of the people [erroneously understand] from the statement of the Messenger [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam (that)]: “If you are unable [to stop evil with your hand, you should do so with speech], but if not, then do so with your heart.”
So, he [i.e. this person who sits in the gatherings of evil] then says: “I hate this evil in my heart”, whilst he [continues] to sit with its people. Therefore, it should be said to him: “Had it been that you truly hate evil, you would not have sat with them, because it is not possible that a person will sit [in such gatherings] whilst he hates doing so unless he is one who is forced and harmed [by others when he refuses, so he complies outwardly, whilst absolutely hating such a deed in his heart].
As for hating something and then sitting in its presence based on one’s choice [i.e. without being forced], then indeed your claim that you hate it is not correct.
Sharh Hilyati Taalibil Ilm’ pages 67 – 68. abridged & slightly paraphrased
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