In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Umar [radiyallaahu-anhu] said, “The Messenger [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] said, ‘Be shy; indeed Allaah is not shy of [stating] the truth. Do not approach women [i.e. do not have sexual intercourse with your wives] in their back passages’”.

Beneficial Reminder From The Above Hadeeth and Another Hadeeth Regarding Shyness

Shaikh Zayd Bin Haadi [rahimahullaah] said: The command to have shyness is a command of the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] just as it has been stated in the Hadeeth reported by Abdullah Bin Mas’ood- radiyallaahu-anhu – [that the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi wasallam) said], “Be shy of Allaah [in a manner] shyness  should be [established]”, so they [i.e. the Sahaabah (radiyallaahu-anhum)] said, “We do feel of Allaah, and all praise and thanks be to Allaah”; the prophet said, “It is not like that; rather the one who is truly shy of Allaah, let him safeguard his head and what it carries; safeguards the stomach and what it carries; remembers death and affliction. And he who wants the Aakhirah should do away with the adornments of this life, then indeed he is truly shy of Allaah [The Mighty and Majestic]”. [Ref 1]

Al-Mubaarakfooree [rahmahullaah] stated regarding the statement of the Messenger [sallal-laahu-alayhi- wasallam], “Be shy of Allaah [in a manner] shyness  should be [established]”– meaning: “A firm, abiding and truthful shyness”. And regarding the statement of the Sahaabah, “We do feel shy of Allaah”, Al-Mubaarakfooree [rahimahullaah] said, “They said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah! We do feel shy of Allaah and all praise and thanks be to Allaah’ but they did not say, ‘We are truly shy of Allaah’ due to their acknowledgement of the fact that they are unable to do so. And regarding their statement, ‘And all praise and thanks be to Allaah’ – meaning, all praise and thanks be to Allaah for granting us Tawfeeq [i.e. for guiding and enabling us to perform righteous deeds]. And regarding the statement of the Messenger [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam], “It is not like that”, Al-Mubaarakfooree [rahimahullaah] said, “Meaning, true shyness is not what you think, rather it is to safeguard all the limbs against what is not pleasing to Allaah”.

And regarding the statement of the Messenger [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam], “Rather the one who is truly shy of Allaah, let him safeguard his head and what it carries; safeguards the stomach and what it carries; remembers death and affliction. And he who wants the Aakhirah should do away with the adornments of this life, then indeed he is truly shy of Allaah [The Mighty and Majestic]”; Al-Mubaarakfooree [rahimahullaah] said, “Meaning, safeguard the head by refraining from utilising it in disobedience to Allaah – that you do not make Sujood to other than Allaah; refrain from Riyaa whilst praying; do not lower your head [in humility] for other than the sake of Allaah, nor raise it out of pride. And with regards to what the head carries, such as the tongue, the eyes and the ears, do not utilise them for Haraam. Safeguard the stomach by refraining from eating Haraam as well as safeguarding what is connected to it – such as the private parts, the legs, the two hands and the heart- [from what is Haraam]”.

“Remembers death and affliction”– Meaning, remember death and your abode in the grave. “And he who wants the Aakhirah should do away with the adornments of this life”– Meaning, because the two cannot be combined in a perfect manner, even those who are strong [in Eemaan] cannot do so [i.e. perfect desire for the afterlife has to be combined with abandoning those enjoyable things of the worldly life which one can do without]. So, whoever does this [i.e. the things mentioned this hadeeth], then indeed he is truly shy of Allaah. [Ref 2]

Shaikh Zayd Bin Haadi [rahimahullaah] stated regarding the statement of the Messenger [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam], “Be shy; indeed Allaah is not shy of [stating] the truth. Do not approach women [i.e. do not have sexual intercourse with your wives] in their back passages”; this is shyness in the presence of Allaah – that neither are seen committing what is forbidden and what you have been commanded to avoid, nor falling short [i.e. out of negligence, laziness, heedlessness etc] in the mandatory and obligatory duties. Likewise, one should have shyness with regards to the rights of his Lord. Also he should be shy of the people within the boundaries of the Sharee’ah and this must be established by way of deeds, so that he is shy in the presence of Allaah [The Mighty and Majestic] and in the presence of the people. And in relation to this shyness is that women [i.e. our wives] are not approached through their back passages [i.e. sexual intercourse in the back passage], for indeed the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] said, “Cursed is the one who approaches a woman in her back passage”. Therefore, the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] forbade this and declared it a major sin, because neither is it the place where the semen should be placed nor where offspring is sought. [Ref 3]

Shaikhul Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah [rahimahullaah] said: The back passage is a place of filth [i.e. the exit place of excrement]. Allaah [Glorified be He and free is He from all imperfections] forbids [a husband] from having sexual intercourse with a menstruating woman [i.e. his wife] due to the impurity in her vulva, then how about having sexual intercourse in the place [i.e. rectum] from which [exits] heavy impurity.[Ref 4]

Imaam Ibnul Qayyim [rahimahullaah] said: The Quraish and the Ansaar used approach their women from the back (i.e. sexual intercourse in the vigina whilst the wife is not lying down on her back), so the Yahood rebuked them for that. Then Allaah [The Mighty and Majestic] revealed: [نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَّكُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّىٰ شِئْتُمْ  – Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth (i.e. have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in the anus), when or how you will]. [2:223]

In the Saheehayn (Bukhaari and Muslim) it has been reported from Jaabir (radiyallaahu-anhu) who said: The Yahood used to say, “If one has sexual intercourse with his wife from the back, then she will deliver a squint-eyed child.” So Allaah (The Mighty and Majestic) revealed: [نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَّكُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّىٰ شِئْتُمْ  – Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth (i.e. have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in the anus), when or how you will]. [Ref 5]

The vagina is the place of seeking after children. As for the anus, it has not been uttered on the tongue of a single Prophet among the Prophets that it is permissible (to have sexual intercourse in the anus). Imaam Abu Daawud (rahimahullaah) reported in his Sunan from Abu Hurairah (radiyallaahu-anhu) that the Messenger (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said: ‘’Cursed is the one who has sexual intercourse with his wife in the anus.’’ [Ref 6]

If it is the case that Allaah has prohibited sexual intercourse through the vagina due to an apparent harm (i.e. at the time of menstruation or post-natal bleeding), then what about the area (i.e. the anus) which is a place for removal of harmful things (i.e. faeces) permanently. The woman has a right to be fulfilled by the husband during sexual relations; therefore to perform sexual intercourse with her through the anus is violation of this right. Anal intercourse neither fulfils her sexual desires nor does it reach its objective. Also, neither is the anus naturally prepared for this act nor was it created for that purpose; rather the vagina is the natural place prepared for sexual relations.

Sexual intercourse through the anus is harmful for the man; likewise it is greatly harmful for the woman because it is something very strange and far removed from innate natural human disposition. It is from the greatest causes of punishment and blessings being taken away because it brings about Allaah’s Anger and Curse. It also deprives the person of shyness because shyness gives life to the heart [i.e. makes it hate and stay away from evil (and) repugnant acts]. However, if the heart is deprived of this shyness, it starts beautifying repugnant acts and declaring good acts repugnant, and thus corruption becomes strengthened and dominant. [Ref 7]


[Ref 1: At-taleeqaat al-Maleehah Alaa Silsilah Al-Ahaadeeth As-Saheehah. Vol 1. Page 66]; [Ref 2: Tuhfatul Ahwadhiy. 7/131. Slightly paraphrased]; Ref 3: [Ref 1: At-taleeqaat al-Maleehah Alaa Silsilah Al-Ahaadeeth As-Saheehah. Vol 1. Page 66]; [Ref 4: Majmoo Al-Fataawaa 32/267]; [Ref 5: Bukhaari. Number: 4528]; [Ref 6: Hadeeth declared Hasan by Imaam Albaani (rahimahullaah) in his checking of Sunan Abu Dawud. Hadeeth Number: 2162. Page: 327. Publisher: Maktabah Al-Ma-aarif]; [Ref 7: An Excerpt from: -بدائع التفسير الجامع لما فسَّره الإمام ابن القيم الجوزية. slightly paraphrased. Vol 1. Page: 176-177]

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