In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.
The Only Perfect Example to Follow
Shaikh Abdur Razzaaq Al-Badr [hafidhahullaah] said:
One of the noblest aspects of knowledge – an affair that occupies a mighty station, is to pay close attention to the characteristics of the Prophet, his specific qualities and deeds by way of which Allaah distinguished him from everyone amongst mankind, his manners, etiquettes and biography. This is because he is the greatest leader and the perfect example. Indeed, Allaah [The Mighty and Majestic] commanded us to follow his example, made him a leader and example for us. Allaah [The Mighty and Majestic] said:
لَّقَدۡ كَانَ لَكُمۡ فِى رَسُولِ ٱللَّهِ أُسۡوَةٌ حَسَنَةٌ۬ لِّمَن كَانَ يَرۡجُواْ ٱللَّهَ وَٱلۡيَوۡمَ ٱلۡأَخِرَ وَذَكَرَ ٱللَّهَ كَثِيرً۬ا
Indeed in the Messenger of Allah (Muhammad) you have a good example to follow for him who hopes in (the Meeting with) Allah and the Last Day and remembers Allah much. [Surah Al-Ahzaab. Aayah 21]
This noble Aayah – as the people of knowledge have stated – is a basis to establish the fact that the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] is to be emulated; but emulating him cannot be actualized except by way of acquainting oneself with his characteristics, his qualities in general, his specific qualities and deeds by way of which Allaah distinguished him from everyone amongst humankind, his manners and etiquettes. The one who is unacquainted with the Prophet’s [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] characteristics and manners will not be able to emulate him, and that is why the scholars of Islaam have written beneficial books regarding his characteristics and qualities.
The manners and qualities of the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] are a means of inviting mankind to this mighty religion of Islaam. Indeed, many people- during his era and thereafter – have been guided through their acquaintance with his manners and qualities. One used to come to him whilst harbouring the severest hatred towards him, but after meeting him and observing his great etiquettes, noble manners, lofty dealings and benevolence, the person would depart whilst loving him more than everyone else on the face of the earth. Therefore, his characteristics are a means to calling to this religion- a weapon for the one inviting the people to the path of Allaah.
Speaking about his qualities, emulating him and calling others to emulate him strengthens the religion of Islaam, because he was the one who Allaah appointed to convey and explain the religion to humankind. Allaah chose him and he is the best of all the slaves of Allaah- the greatest in his servitude to Allaah.
Calling the people to emulate his qualities is a means to calling people to believe in the religion ordained by Allaah and a means to strengthening the belief of the one who has already believed in his Messenger-ship. This is why turning away from his Seerah has been the cause of people’s inclination towards the path of the losers amongst men and women, as opposed to the biographies of the Leaders of Guidance – the greatest of them being the Messenger, because they are a means of rectifying the person and a means to safety from corruption and evil. On the other hand, the biography of the losers is a path that will lead to evil, ruin and corruption. Allaah [The Mighty and Majestic] said:
قَدۡ كَانَتۡ ءَايَـٰتِى تُتۡلَىٰ عَلَيۡكُمۡ فَكُنتُمۡ عَلَىٰٓ أَعۡقَـٰبِكُمۡ تَنكِصُونَ
مُسۡتَكۡبِرِينَ بِهِۦ سَـٰمِرً۬ا تَهۡجُرُونَ
أَفَلَمْ يَدَّبَّرُوا الْقَوْلَ أَمْ جَاءَهُم مَّا لَمْ يَأْتِ آبَاءَهُمُ الْأَوَّلِينَ
أَمْ لَمْ يَعْرِفُوا رَسُولَهُمْ فَهُمْ لَهُ مُنكِرُونَ
Indeed My Verses used to be recited to you, but you used to turn back on your heels [denying them, and with hatred to listen to them]. In pride [they Quraish pagans and polytheists of Makkah used to feel proud that they are the dwellers of Makkah sanctuary Haram], talking evil about it [the Qur’an] by night. Have they not pondered over the Word [of Allaah, i.e. what is sent down to the Prophet], or has there come to them what had not come to their fathers of old? Or is it that they did not recognize their Messenger [Muhammad] so they deny him? [i.e. this is a rebuke against them because all of them – young and old – knew his lineage, truthfulness and trustworthiness, yet they turned away from his message]. [Surah Al-Muminoon. Aayaat 66-69]
This shows that contemplating on the Qur’aan and acquainting oneself with the Messenger’s guidance and biography is a path leading to safety, and a safeguard against turning back on one’s heels [i.e. a safeguard against turning away from the guidance he was sent with]. On the other hand, abandoning the Seerah of the Prophet and inclining towards the Seerah of the losers [i.e. those men and women upon other than the guidance of the Messenger] will lead to ruin. The people became corrupted – in this era – after being put to trial through movies and films; but had they turned to the biographies of the Prophets and the noble companions of the Prophet Muhammad, they would have found guidance and a path leading to steadfastness. [Ref 1]
The Reality Behind Attachment to So-called Influencers and Beauty Bloggers
Imaam Ibnul Qayyim [rahimahullaah] said:
Hearts that are emptied of Love for Allaah -hearts that are turned away from Him and seeking remedy from others besides Him- are afflicted with an infatuation with images; for when the heart is filled with Love of Allaah and a strong love for meeting Him [i.e. in the hereafter], this infatuation with images is repelled from it. And for this reason, Allaah [The Most High] stated about Yusuf [alayhis-salaam]:
[كَذَٰلِكَ لِنَصْرِفَ عَنْهُ السُّوءَ وَالْفَحْشَاءَ ۚ إِنَّهُ مِنْ عِبَادِنَا الْمُخْلَصِينَ -Thus it was, that We might turn away from him evil and illegal sexual intercourse. Surely, he was one of Our chosen, guided slaves]. This shows that sincerity to [Allaah] is a means to repelling [evil]. And because of this, some of the Salaf said: ‘’Infatuation is an agitation in empty hearts.” Meaning: [Hearts] emptied of other than what they crave for. [Ref 2]
Imaam Ibnul Qayyim [rahimahullaah] said:
Whenever the heart is distanced from Allaah, then harm upon it is quicker, and whenever it is comes closer to Allaah, it is distanced from harm. Being distanced from Allaah is of various levels and some are more severe than others. Being distanced from [Allaah] through disobedience is greater than being distanced from [Allaah] through thoughtlessness; being distanced from [Allaah] through religious innovations is greater than being distanced from [Allaah] through disobedience, and being distanced from [Allaah] through hypocrisy and shirk is greater than all of that. [Ref 2.1]
Be Mindful of Those Who Corrupt Women
Shaikh Abdur Razzaaq Al-Badr [hafidhahullaah] said in his treatise titled: Characteristics of the Pious Wife:
This treatise is also a reminder to the callers to Islaam so that they give concern and importance to this affair, and that they hasten in spreading these virtuous characteristics, praiseworthy manners and blessed endowments, so that they may become qualities preserved in daughters and the women in a society of Imaan and in the houses of the believers; especially in this era – in which the woman is attacked [in a manner] that has not taken place previously, taking into consideration the numerous publications, the many channels and numerous ways designed to ruin the chastity, nobility, perfection, Imaan, manners and [distinguished virtuous qualities] of the woman. Indeed in the past it was not possible for [those] corrupt calls, desires guided by personal interests and wrong ideas to reach the woman, except through limited channels- either [through] an evil companion or similar to that, and thus she is made to have contact with some of the evil characteristics. As for today, the woman is made to have contact with all the filthy, vile and corrupt [affairs] of the world, whilst she is in the innermost part of her bedroom, without leaving her house. The woman sits in the innermost part of her bedroom in front of a screen or the internet, or she is [made to have contact] with some of the lowly magazines and thus her intellect, thoughts and heart are infiltrated with every corruption and evil. [Ref 2.2]
The Messenger [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] said:
Verily the worldly life is sweet and green, and verily Allaah is going to place you as successors upon it in and will see how you act. So, be mindful of the dunyaah and be mindful of women; verily the first trial for the Children of Israa’eel was caused by women. [Ref 3]
Imaam Muhammad Ibn Saaleh Al-Uthaymeen [rahimahullaah] said regarding the statement of the Messenger [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam], “Verily The Worldly Life Is Sweet And Green”- meaning: Sweet in taste and green in its image. And when something is green and sweet, the eye seeks it first and then the Nafs; and when the eye and the nafs come together in seeking after something, the human being is drawn close to falling into it. The worldly life is sweet in its taste and green in its image, so the human being is deceived by it and pre-occupied with it. He places greater importance on it than what is due to it (of importance). However, the Prophet (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) has made it known that Allaah is going to place us as successors upon (the earth) in order to see how we act; whether we will be obedient to Him, forbid the nafs from desires, fulfil what Allaah has enjoined upon us and not allow the worldly life to deceive you or whether the opposite will take place? This is why he [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said, “Be Mindful Of The Worldly Life”, that is: fulfil what you have been commanded and refrain from that which you have been forbidden, and do not let the sweetness and radiance of this worldly life to deceive you, as Allaah said: [فَلَا تَغُرَّنَّڪُمُ ٱلۡحَيَوٰةُ ٱلدُّنۡيَا وَلَا يَغُرَّنَّڪُم بِٱللَّهِ ٱلۡغَرُورُ – [Let not then this (worldly) present life deceive you, nor let the chief deceiver (Satan) deceive you about Allaah]. [31:33]
Then he [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] stated, “So Be Mindful Of The Worldly Life And Be Mindful Of Women”- meaning: Be mindful of them. This includes a warning to the woman with regards to her plot(s) against her husband and also a warning against women and the trial that can occur through them. And for that reason he [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] said, “Verily The First Trial For The Children Of Israa’eel Was Caused By Women”. They were put to trial through women, thus they went astray and led others astray, and Allaah refuge is sought!
And for this reason, we find that at present our enemies are focused on women issues. [They focus] on adorning women, intermingling them and make them share the same occupations with men, until it becomes as if the people are donkeys having no other concern except for their stomachs and canal desires, and Allaah’s Refuge is sought! Women are portrayed as if they are mere images, that is: pictures (which) people attached no importance to except that which is connected to the woman’s figure (outward appearance). See how they have decorated and beautified her! See how they have brought about beautifications for her and presented her in a desirable condition, in relation to (her) hair, skin, legs, arms, face and everything else; until they make it the most important issue for the woman, like a picture made out of plastic. They neither present to her the importance of establishing Ibaadah nor bearing children. [Ref 4]
Shaikh Muhammad Khaleel Harraas [rahimahullaah] stated in his explanation of An-Nooniyyah by Imaam Ibnul Qayyim [rahimahullaah]:
After Imaam Ibnul Qayyim (rahimahullaah) described the beauty and perfection of the women of Paradise so that one is drawn towards them, he warned against being deceived by the evil women of this worldly life-those who are deprived of every excellent trait. They are neither perfect in their physical appearances nor do they possess good actions.
How can one be deceived by a woman who possesses ugly manners and is untrustworthy! How can one be deceived by a woman who neither fulfils her obligations nor does she possess patience! How can one be deceived by a woman who is neither contented nor is she obedient and humble [i.e. not obedient to Allaah in that which Allaah has commanded her to fulfil in marriage], and her deeds are ugly! Rather she is a female shaytaan disguised in the image of a human, so she deceives the despicable and depraved people who desire her because they are similar to her and are ready to obey her.
As for the people of goodness and virtue, she neither wants nor desires them because there are no similarities between her and them. She is deprived of everything that directs her towards good and prevents her from evil. She neither possesses the correct way of life ordained by Allaah and a sound moral intellect nor does she possess good manners and fear of Allaah. She does not possess natural beauty, rather her beauty is a falsified one that emanates from cosmetics. And when she leaves that beautification and embellishment the defects on her becomes apparent and she is deprived of everything that makes a person desirous of her. She is characterized with betrayal-neither grateful towards good companionship nor does she preserve and fulfil its rights.
Her beauty is a thin shell and underneath it are defects and ugly affairs. Her beauty resembles a fake coin plated with gold or silver, which one may consider to be a real gold or silver coin; but this counterfeit cannot be circulated amongst the money changers even though many people are deceived by it. [Ref 5]
Brothers and sisters, as for the righteous wife, then indeed she is not in need of so called influencers or beauty bloggers, rather these are corrupt people whose hearts are emptied of attachment to their Creator. Imaam Ibnul Jawzee [rahimahullaah] said, “Sayyaar [rahimahullaah] reported from Riyaah [rahimahullaah] who said, ‘A woman was mentioned to me, so I married her. Whenever she finished praying Ishaa, she would perfume herself, adorn herself with incense and wear her (fine) clothes; then she would approach me and say, ‘Do you have a need?’ If I said, ‘Yes’ she would stay with me; and if I said no, she would take off her (fine) clothes and stand up for (prayer) till the morning’. Riyaah said, ‘By Allaah, she really delighted me’’. [Ref 6]
And there are also those so called beauty bloggers and influencers whose lifestyles based upon that which Allaah and his Messengers have forbidden, such those men who imitate women. Ibn Abbaas [radiyallaahu-anhumaa] said that the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] said, “Allaah cursed men who imitate women and women who imitate men”. And he said, “Throw them out of your houses”. [Al-Bukhaari 5885]
Likewise, there are those influencers and beauty bloggers who call to the sin of homosexuality, so how can a Muslim who fears Allaah seek to imitate people who are disobedient to Allaah and His Messenger?!
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Finally, must read the following articles on the following links:
Twelve Steps In Cultivating Our Children and Establishing a Pious Home
[Ref 1: An Excerpt from: (شرح المختصر في صفات النبي ﷺ وأخلاقه )Lesson 1. slightly paraphrased]
[Ref 2: Source: An excerpt from At-Tibbun Nabawiy’ by Imaam Ibnul Qayyim (rahimahullaah) with the footnotes and checking of Al-Allaamah Muhammad Haamid Al-Faqee (rahimahullaah) page180. slightly paraphrased]
[Ref 2.1:An Excerpt from ‘Ad-Daa’u Wad-Dawaa’u’ page 119-120’. slightly paraphrased]
[Ref 2.2: Characteristics of The Pious Wife. Page 1]
[Ref 3: Saheeh Muslim: No 2742) (Ibn Maajah: No 4000) (Ahmad: 3:22)]
[Ref 4: Source: An Excerpt from this lecture: https://safeshare.tv/x/fKxP_Mt7o9w# paraphrased]
[Ref 5: Sharh Al-Qaseedah An-Nooniyyah by Shaikh Muhammad Khaleel Al-Harraas (rahimahullaah): Vol 2, page: 738-739]
[Ref 6: [Sifatus Safwah: page: 116]