A Man’s Knowledge Regarding The Feelings of His Wife In different Situations, Whilst Sincere Love And Respect Is Maintained Between Them

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Aa’isha [radiyallaahu-anhaa] narrated that Allaah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said to her, “I know when you are pleased with me or angry with me”. I said, “When do you know that?” He said, “When you are pleased with me, you say, ‘No, by the Lord of Muhammad,’ but when you are angry with me, then you say, ‘No, by the Lord of Abraaheem.’ ” Thereupon I said, “Yes, (certainly, you are right); but by Allaah, O Allaah’s Messenger (ﷺ), I do not leave anything else besides your name”.

Benefits From This Hadeeth

  • A man’s thorough observation regarding the state of a woman due to her action, speech, inclination or lack of inclination towards him based on indications, because the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] firmly determined Aa’Isha’s  [radiyallaahu-anhaa] happiness or anger merely when she mentioned or refrain from mentioning his name; therefore, he [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] judged the two situations based on the mention or the absence of a mention of his name as an indication of happiness or anger. It can also be definitely the case that there is something more explicit regarding this affair, but he did not say it.
  • And regarding the statement of Aa’Isha, “Yes (certainly, you are right); but by Allaah, O Allaah’s Messenger, I do not leave anything else besides your name”. At-Teebee [rahimahullaah] said, “This is a very subtle way of making an exception, because she related that when she is in a state of anger – a state in which a sane person loses his senses by choice, her affirmed love for the Messenger [sallal laaahu alayhi wasallam] does not change.
  • Ibnul Muneer [rahimahullaah] said, “What Aa’isha [radiyallaahu anhaa] intended is that she left out the wording of the Prophet’s [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] name but her heart’s pure love and affection towards the noble person of the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] does not leave her.
  • And with regards to the choice Aa’Isha [radiyallaahu anhaa] made to use Ibraaheem’s [alayhis salaam] name instead of the other Prophets [alayhimus salaam], this is proof regarding her intelligence, because the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] is the one with the best claim to Ibraaheem [alayhis salaam] just as Allaah stated in the Qur’an. Therefore, when she had no other way of leaving a noble name, she replaced it with the name of someone who is from the one whose name she left out, so that her heart does not exit the boundaries of that attachment.

[Source: An Excerpt from Fat-hul Baari Sharh Saheeh Al-Bukhaari Hadeeth 5228. Vol 9, Pages 404- 405. Slightly paraphrased. Publisher. Daarus Salaam. 1st Edition 1421AH [Year 2000]

We ask Allaah to place abundant love, compassion and mercy between us and our wives upon that which agrees with the Qur’aan and the authentic Sunnah Aameen.

Salafi Centre Appeal 2020



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