In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.
Abdullah Bin Amr [radidallaahu-anhu] reported that the Messenger of Allaah [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam] said, “Whoever would love to be delivered from Hellfire and admitted into Paradise, let him meet his end whilst believing in Allaah and the Last Day, and let him treat people as he would love to be treated.” [Ref 1]
Imaam An-Nawawi [rahimahullaah] said:
This is from the Jawaami al-Kalim of the Prophet [i.e. precise speech with a comprehensive meaning] and his amazing wisdom. It is obligatory to pay close attention to this important principle and that a person must not deal with the people except in a way he loves to be dealt with. [Ref 2]
Al-Allaamah Zayd Bin Haadee al-Madkhalee [rahimahullaah] said:
A Muslim is to give consideration to his Muslim brothers in the same way he would give consideration to himself; wishing for them the good he wishes for himself and hates that evil should touch them just as he hates that for himself. The one who loves that the people should approach him with good related to the worldly affairs and affairs related to the Afterlife, then it is obligated on him to do the same for them, so that the statement of the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam], “You cannot [truly] believe until you wish for your brother what you wish for yourself” becomes a reality in his personality; and also the statement of the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam], “The believer in relation to another believer is like a structure, each part strengthening the other”; and also the statement of the Prophet [sallal laahu alayhi wasallam], “The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim”. Whoever is able to have these characteristics, then indeed he has established Eemaan [in this affair], good manners and good dealings. [Ref 3]
Imaam Muhammad Ibn Saaleh al-Uthaymeen [rahimahullaah] said:
When a person knows his limitations, he will be humble in the presence of his Lord, worship Allaah and will know that he is not free from being in need of Allaah in the twinkling of an eye. If he knows himself, he will know his status amongst the people and this knowledge will (prevent) him from being haughty towards them, because haughtiness is one of the major sins and looking down on the people is one of the forbidden deeds. That is why when the Prophet [sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam] warned against pride, they (i.e. the people) said: “Everyone of us loves that his clothes and shoes are nice”, so he (sallal-laahu-alayhi-wasallam) said, “Indeed, Allaah is beautiful and He loves beauty, pride is to reject the truth and look down on the people.” So when a person knows his limitations, he will know his rank amongst the people. He will place himself in his (rightful) place, humble himself in the presence of his lord and in the presence of Allaah’s creation. And whoever humbles himself to Allaah, Allaah will raise him. [Ref 4]
Imaam Ibnul Qayyim [rahimahullaah] said:
And from the signs of well-being and success is that whenever the slave is increased in his knowledge, he increases in humility and mercy; and whenever he is increased in action, he increases in his fear and caution; and whenever his age is increased, he decreases in eagerness; and whenever he is increased in wealth, he increases in his generosity and spending; and whenever his status and honour is increased, he increases in coming close to the people, in fulfilling their needs and being humble in (their presence).
And the signs of wretchedness are: Whenever he is increased in knowledge, he increases in pride and haughtiness; and whenever he is increased in actions, he increases in his boasting, mockery of the people and having a good opinion of himself; and whenever he is increased in his status and honour, he increases in pride and haughtiness. These affairs of [well-being and wretchedness] are a trial and a test from Allaah by way of which He puts His slaves to trial. He brings about well-being and wretchedness to a people by way of these affairs. [Ref 5]
[Ref 1: Ṣaḥeeh Muslim 1844]
[Ref 2: Sharh Saheeh Muslim Vol 12/196]
[Ref 3: At-ta’leeqaat Al-Maleehah Alaa Silsilati Al-Ahaadeeth As-Saheehah. 2/29-33. slightly paraphrased]
[Ref 4: Noor Alad-Darb: cassette: 250]
[Ref 5: Al-Fawaa’d. page: 228]