In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.
First, Allaah [The Exalted] said:
وَٱلۡوَٲلِدَٲتُ يُرۡضِعۡنَ أَوۡلَـٰدَهُنَّ حَوۡلَيۡنِ كَامِلَيۡنِۖ لِمَنۡ أَرَادَ أَن يُتِمَّ ٱلرَّضَاعَةَۚ وَعَلَى ٱلۡمَوۡلُودِ لَهُ ۥ رِزۡقُهُنَّ وَكِسۡوَتُہُنَّ بِٱلۡمَعۡرُوفِۚ لَا تُكَلَّفُ نَفۡسٌ إِلَّا وُسۡعَهَاۚ لَا تُضَآرَّ وَٲلِدَةُۢ بِوَلَدِهَا وَلَا مَوۡلُودٌ۬ لَّهُ ۥ بِوَلَدِهِۦۚ وَعَلَى ٱلۡوَارِثِ مِثۡلُ ذَٲلِكَۗ فَإِنۡ أَرَادَا فِصَالاً عَن تَرَاضٍ۬ مِّنۡہُمَا وَتَشَاوُرٍ۬ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيۡہِمَاۗ وَإِنۡ أَرَدتُّمۡ أَن تَسۡتَرۡضِعُوٓاْ أَوۡلَـٰدَكُمۡ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيۡكُمۡ إِذَا سَلَّمۡتُم مَّآ ءَاتَيۡتُم بِٱلۡمَعۡرُوفِۗ وَٱتَّقُواْ ٱللَّهَ وَٱعۡلَمُوٓاْ أَنَّ ٱللَّهَ بِمَا تَعۡمَلُونَ بَصِيرٌ۬
The mothers shall give suck to their children for two whole years, (that is) for those (parents) who desire to complete the term of suckling, but the father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother’s food and clothing on a reasonable basis. No person shall have a burden laid on him greater than he can bear. No mother shall be treated unfairly on account of her child, nor father on account of his child. And on the (father’s) heir is incumbent the like of that (which was incumbent on the father). If they both decide on weaning, by mutual consent, and after due consultation, there is no sin on them. And if you decide on a foster suckling-mother for your children, there is no sin on you, provided you pay (the mother) what you agreed (to give her) on reasonable basis. And fear Allah and know that Allah is All-Seer of what you do. [Surah Al-Baqarah. Verse 233]
Al-Allaamah Saaleh Al-Fawzaan [may Allaah preserve him] stated: The meaning of [الرضاع] in the Arabic language is to suckle milk from the [الثدي- the breast of a woman] or drink it. In the Islamic legislation, it is the suckling of milk or drinking it – by a child who is under the age of two – that occurs as a result of pregnancy [i.e. after the woman gives birth]. [Mulakh-khas Al-Fiqhee 2/345]
Also the breast of a female has a description based on the word [نهد ]- meaning: When the breast of a female rises, increase in size etc. So, when the breast of a girl rises, she is called a [ناهد – one who has reached that stage in which her breasts have risen or become bigger]. [See Lisaan Al-Arab]
As for the idle minds – those whose minds have nothing to do but follow every path to oppose the path of the Prophets and Messengers, one of their ways is that they constantly seek to distort reality through ambiguous and general terms. So, they suggest that the term “Chest Feeding” should be used instead of “Breast Feeding”. Let us look at two words that carry the meaning of the word ‘chest’.
[a] [الجَوش]: It is said: [الجوش الصدرُ من الإِنسان – The الجَوش is the chest (middle or fore part) of a person]. And it is also said about the night [جَوْش من الليل أَي صدْر منه – the middle or latter part of the night].
[b] [حضن – The chest, upper arms and what is between them].
We’ll suffice with these two words and then ask the idle minds the following question: “What is that thing – located around the area of the chest, the upper arm and what is between them – from which a child suckles milk from a woman or mother?” Answer: It is nothing else but what has been stated earlier that it is: [الثدي- the breast of a woman]. In the Islamic legislation, it is the suckling of milk or drinking it – by a child who is under the age of two – that occurs as a result of pregnancy [i.e. after the woman gives birth]. [Mulakh-khas Al-Fiqhee 2/345]. Also the breast of a female has a description based on the word [نهد ]- meaning: When the breasts of a female rises, increase in size etc. So, when the breast of a girl rises, she is called a [ناهد – one who has reached that stage in which her breasts have risen or become bigger]. [See Lisaan Al-Arab]
Second, the idle minds claim that they want to use the term Chest Feeding in order to be gender neutral, so we say to them, read here: https://www.abukhadeejah.com/a-former-transgender-it-was-all-a-sham/ https://www.abukhadeejah.com/lgbtq-homosexuality-gay-muslims-and-islam/
Third, beware of everyone who utilizes general terms to distort reality as Imaam Ibnul Qayyim [may Allaah have mercy upon him][ said, “The basis of Banee Aadam’s [i.e. the children of Aadam] misguidance is as a result of ‘General Terms’ and ‘Ambiguous Meanings’ [i.e. terms & meanings which can either be utilized for truth or falsehood when not explained in detail and distinguished], especially if they come in contact with a confused mind, then how about when (unlawful) desires and misguided enthusiasm is added to that? Therefore, ask the One Who keeps the hearts steadfast [i.e. Allaah] to keep your heart firm upon the Religion He has ordained and not allow you to fall into this darkness”. [As-Sawaa’iq Al-Mursalah Alal Jahmiyyah Wal Mu’attilah’ – Vol 3. page 927. slightly paraphrased]
We all know that language changes and may have a different meaning in different nations, customs, clans and cultures. These differences influence the way we see the world, describe and perceive things- sometimes in agreement with Allaah’s infallible divine revelation and at other times in opposition to it. Therefore, we remind ourselves of the following admonitions by Imaams Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz and Imaam Muhammad Ibn Saaleh Al-Uthaymeen [may Allaah have mercy upon them].
Imaam Abdul Azeez Bin Baaz [may Allaah have mercy upon him] said, “It is obligated on every Muslim that he does not depend on custom; rather he presents it to the pure Islamic legislation (to be judged), so whatever the Islamic legislation affirms is permissible and whatever it does not affirm is impermissible. The customs of the people are not proof to determine the lawfulness of anything. All the customs of the people in their countries or tribes must be presented to the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of His Messenger [peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him] for judgement, so whatever Allaah and His Messenger made permissible is permissible, and whatever they forbid, then it is obligatory to abandon it even if it is the custom of the people”. [Majmoo Al-Fataawaa 6/510]
Imaam Muhammad Bin Saaleh Al-Uthaymeen [may Allaah have mercy upon him] said, “The customs cannot make something that is not legislated (in the divine revelation) as something legislated, because of Allaah’s statement: [وَلَيۡسَ ٱلۡبِرُّ بِأَن تَأۡتُواْ ٱلۡبُيُوتَ مِن ظُهُورِهَا – It is not Al-Birr (piety, righteousness, etc.) that you enter the houses from the back] [Surah Al-Baqarah. Aayah 189], despite the fact that it was something they took as their custom and considered it to be an act of righteousness. Whoever takes something as a custom and believes that it is an act of righteousness, then it should be presented to Allaah’s divine legislation [i.e. to be judged]”. [Tafseer Surah Al-Baqarah 2/299]
Imaam Muhammad Bin Saaleh Al-Uthaymeen [may Allaah have mercy upon him] also said, “Extremism in related to customs is stringent adherence to old customs and not diverting to what is better than them. As for if the customs are equal in benefit [i.e. the ones judged to be permissible by the divine legislation], then a person remaining upon what he is upon would be better than going along with the new (or emerging) customs”. [Majmoo Al-Fataawaa 7/7]
Finally, we make it absolutely clear that the intent behind this short article is to clarify and rebut those idle minds that seek to distort reality and spread misconceptions in the guise of equality, but we are commanded to live with everyone whilst behaving well towards them. Listen or read on the following links by Shaikh Abdul Waahid Abu Khadeejah [may Allaah preserve him].
May Allaah bless our mothers and grant them the highest place in Jannah due to the love and compassion they have shown us, and likewise our wives who went through the same hardships to nurture our children. Allaah [The Exalted] said:
وَوَصَّيۡنَا ٱلۡإِنسَـٰنَ بِوَٲلِدَيۡهِ حَمَلَتۡهُ أُمُّهُ ۥ وَهۡنًا عَلَىٰ وَهۡنٍ۬ وَفِصَـٰلُهُ ۥ فِى عَامَيۡنِ أَنِ ٱشۡڪُرۡ لِى وَلِوَٲلِدَيۡكَ إِلَىَّ ٱلۡمَصِيرُ
And We have enjoined on the human being (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination. [Surah Luqmaan. 14]
Allaah [The Exalted] said:
وَوَصَّيۡنَا ٱلۡإِنسَـٰنَ بِوَٲلِدَيۡهِ إِحۡسَـٰنًاۖ حَمَلَتۡهُ أُمُّهُ ۥ كُرۡهً۬ا وَوَضَعَتۡهُ كُرۡهً۬اۖ وَحَمۡلُهُ ۥ وَفِصَـٰلُهُ ۥ ثَلَـٰثُونَ شَہۡرًاۚ حَتَّىٰٓ إِذَا بَلَغَ أَشُدَّهُ ۥ وَبَلَغَ أَرۡبَعِينَ سَنَةً۬ قَالَ رَبِّ أَوۡزِعۡنِىٓ أَنۡ أَشۡكُرَ نِعۡمَتَكَ ٱلَّتِىٓ أَنۡعَمۡتَ عَلَىَّ وَعَلَىٰ وَٲلِدَىَّ وَأَنۡ أَعۡمَلَ صَـٰلِحً۬ا تَرۡضَٮٰهُ وَأَصۡلِحۡ لِى فِى ذُرِّيَّتِىٓۖ إِنِّى تُبۡتُ إِلَيۡكَ وَإِنِّى مِنَ ٱلۡمُسۡلِمِينَ
And We have enjoined on the human being to be dutiful and kind to his parents. His mother bears him with hardship and she brings him forth with hardship, and the bearing of him, and the weaning of him is thirty (30) months, till when he attains full strength and reaches forty years, he says: “My Lord! Grant me the power and ability that I may be grateful for Your Favour which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents, and that I may do righteous good deeds, such as please You, and make my off-spring good. Truly, I have turned to You in repentance, and truly, I am one of the Muslims (submitting to Your Will).” [Surah Al-Ahqaaf. 15]
And Allaah knows best