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In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Allaah [The Exalted] stated:

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect. [Soorah Ar-Rum: Ayah: 21]

The Messenger [peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him] said, “There is nothing like marriage, for two who love one another”. (1) Meaning: There is no bond like that bond between two people in marriage who love one another, for if they are married and love is present between them, it will increase in strength every day. (2)

Imaam Muhammad Ibn Saaleh Al-Uthaymeen [may Allaah have mercy upon him] said, “If a person says, ‘What will make a man love his wife and vice versa?’ We say, ‘Allaah has clarified this in His statement: [ وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ – And live with them honourably]. If every person lives with his wife honourably and vice versa, then love, a strong bond and a happy married life will be established'”. (3)

The aim of a righteous Muslim woman is to get married to a righteous Muslim man, as Imaam Ibn Qutaybah [may Allaah have mercy upon him] stated, “Marry your daughter to a man who fears Allah, because he will be kind if he loves her and will not oppress her when he is angry with her”. (4) As for the Muslim man, he also looks for a righteous Muslim woman – one who will aid him to obey Allaah and not a woman intoxicated with transgression or one drowned in the plots of those who seek to turn women into sexual objects or isolate corrupt them. The Messenger [peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him] said, “Verily the worldly life is sweet and green, and verily Allaah is going to place you as successors upon it in and will see how you act. So, be mindful of the dunyaah and be mindful of women; verily the first trial for the Children of Israa’eel was caused by women”. [Saheeh Muslim: No 2742) (Ibn Maajah: No 4000) (Ahmad: 3:22)]

Imaam Muhammad Ibn Saaleh Al-Uthaymeen [may Allaah have mercy upon him] said regarding the statement of the Messenger, “Verily the worldly life is sweet and green”, meaning: Sweet in taste and green in its image. And when something is green and sweet, the eye seeks it first and then the Nafs; and when the eye and the nafs come together in seeking after something, the human being is drawn close to falling into it. The worldly life is sweet in its taste and green in its image, so the human being is deceived by it and pre-occupied with it. He places greater importance on it than what is due to it (of importance). However, the Prophet has made it known that Allaah is going to place us as successors upon (the earth) in order to see how we act; whether we will be obedient to Him, forbid the nafs from desires, fulfil what Allaah has enjoined upon us and not allow the worldly life to deceive you or whether the opposite will take place? This is why the Messenger said, “Be mindful of the worldly life”, meaning, fulfil what you have been commanded and refrain from that which you have been forbidden, and do not let the sweetness and radiance of this worldly life to deceive you, as Allaah said:

[فَلَا تَغُرَّنَّڪُمُ ٱلۡحَيَوٰةُ ٱلدُّنۡيَا وَلَا يَغُرَّنَّڪُم بِٱللَّهِ ٱلۡغَرُورُ – [Let not then this (worldly) present life deceive you, nor let the chief deceiver (Satan) deceive you about Allaah].

Then the Messenger said, “So be mindful of the worldly life and be mindful of women”- meaning: Be mindful of them. This includes a warning to the woman with regards to her plots against her husband –  a warning regarding (evil) women and the trial that can occur through them. And for that reason the Messenger said, “Verily the first trial for the children of Israa’eel was caused by women”. They were put to trial through women and thus they went astray, and led others astray, and Allaah refuge is sought! And for this reason, we find that at present our enemies are focused on women issues- (focus) on adorning women, intermingling them and make them share the same occupations with men, until it becomes as if the people are donkeys having no other concern except for their stomachs and canal desires, and Allaah’s Refuge is sought! Women are portrayed as if they are mere images, that is: pictures (which) people attached no importance to except that which is connected to the woman’s figure (outward appearance). See how they have decorated and beautified her! See how they have brought about beautifications for her and presented her in a desirable condition, in relation to (her) hair, skin, legs, arms, face and everything else; until they make it the most important issue for the woman, like a picture made out of plastic. They neither present to her the importance of establishing Ibaadah nor bearing children. [Source: An Excerpt from this lecture: https://safeshare.tv/x/fKxP_Mt7o9w# . paraphrased]

Finally, listen to the clarifications regarding Muslim women
Women’s Rights In Islaam https://safeyoutube.net/w/1jCZ [10mins]
https://www.salafisounds.com/the-muslim-woman-in-a-modern-world-by-abu-khadeejah/ [55mins]
https://www.salafisounds.com/women-in-islam-by-abu-khadeejah/ [1hr 59mins]

[Ref 1: Reported by Imaam Ibn Maajah 2/153. Hadeeth Number: 1847. Declared Authentic by Imaam Albaanee in As-Saheehah 2/196];
[Ref 2: Sharh Sunan Ibn Maajah by As-Sindee (rahimahullaah)… Hadeeth Number 1847’ Book of Marriage- Chapter: The Excellence of Marriage]
[Ref 3: Fataawaa Noor Alad-Darb 6/29]
[Ref 4: Kitaab Uyoon Al Akhbar 3/308]

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