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Allāh Hates all Lowly Manners, Characteristics, Speech and Actions – Shaykh Zayd, Shaykh ‘Abdullāh Bassām and Shaykh Fawzān

عن أنس رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: ما كان الفحش في شيء؛ إلا شانه، و ما كان الحياء في شيء؛ إلا زانه

On the authority of Anas (Allāh be pleased with him), that the Messenger of Allāh (sallāhu alaihi wa salam) said:

Indecency is not present in an affair except that it makes it ugly, and shyness/shame is not present in an affair except that it beautifies it. (Authenticated by al-Imām Al-Albāni in Sahīh At-Tirmidhi vol.2 pg. 369)

Shaykh Zayd ibn Hādi (rahimahullāh):

This hadith indicates the great status of shyness/shame in the religion of Islam, due to (the effect it has on the servant of) making him feel ashamed of facing Allah, whilst abandoning His commands, or carrying out a prohibition, or wrongdoing in speech or action in an affair connected to the rights of the creation.

Alongside that, the Hadith shows the dispraise of indecency in speech or actions, regardless of if it is linked to the rights of Allāh, His messenger or the ummah (in general). This is because Islam calls to the adornment of all praiseworthy characteristics, statements and deeds and the abandonment of all lowly despicable characteristics, actions and statements.

عن أبي الدرداء رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: إن الله يبغض الفاحش البذيء

Abu ad-Darda (Allāh be pleased with him), said that the Messenger of Allāh (sallāhu alaihi wa salam) said:

Verily, Allāh hates the fāhish and the badhī.

Shaykh Al-Fawzān (hafidahullāh) explains:

Al-Fāhish are the perpetrators of foul indecent disgusting actions and Al-Badhī are the utterers of indecency, cursing, revilement and slandering etc.

All of these affairs are evil and Allāh hates those who posses these two characteristics.

 ‎  ليس المؤمن بالطعان، ولا اللعان، ولا الفاحش، ولا البذيء ‎ :عن عبد الله بن مسعود رضي الله عنه قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم

‘Abdullāh ibn Mas’ūd (Allāh be pleased with him) narrated that the Messenger of Allāh (sallāhu alaihi wa salam) said:

The (complete) believer does not revile and curse (frequently whether he has a reason or not) and neither does he commit immoral vile disgusting deeds or utter lewd immoral speech. (Authenticated by al- Imām Al-Albāni in Sahīh At-Tirmidhi vol.2 pg. 370)

Shaykh ‘Abdullāh Bassām (rahimahullāh) mentions at the end of his explanation of this hadīth:

In conclusion, these are not the manners of someone whose heart has been illuminated with the light of īmān in Allāh. Nor of one whose manners have been beautified by at-Taqwa. Or of one whose conduct has been improved by worship, or by the one whose tongue has become rectified and refined by adh-dhikr; rather these are only the manners of the riffraff from the sinful and hypocrites.

Shaykh Zayd ibn Hādi (rahimahullāh) concludes his explanation of the hadīth of Anas by saying:

When the issue is as you have learnt oh Muslims, then verily it is compulsory upon us to take an example from what these texts show us, in relation to the praiseworthy nature of shyness/shame and the evil of depravity, indecency, lewdness etc.


Compiled, abridged and paraphrased from:
Shaykh Zayd ibn Hādi’s ‘Awnul-Ahadis-Samad Sharhul-Adabil-Mufrad vol.2 pgs. 213-214
Shaykh Fawzān’s Tashīlul-Ilmām bi Fiqhil-Ahādīth min Bulūghil-Marām Vol.6 pgs 263-264
Shaykh ‘Abdullāh Bassām’s Tawdīhil-Ahkām min Bulūghil-Marām vol.7 pg 497

The wife raising her voice towards her husband – Shaykh Uthaymeen

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Shaykh Uthaymeen was asked about a woman who raises her voice and shouts at her husband:

(Paraphrasing)
Indeed raising of the wife’s voice towards her husband is from evil manners, and that is because he is her protector and he takes care of her.*

Therefore it is a must that she respects him and addresses him with manners. Because that is more likely to create affection between them and enables friendship and love to remain between them. Likewise the husband must also treat her kindly. So good manners and kind treatment is mutual, Allah the Most High said:

…And treat them kindly; then if you hate them, it may be that you dislike a thing while Allah has placed abundant good in it.
Soorah An-Nisaa’ Verse 19

Fataawa Noor alad Darb li ibn Uthaymeen

* Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband’s property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.
Soorah An-Nisaa Verse 34

Asking “Was She a Virgin?” – The Permanent Committee of Scholars

In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy

Question:

There are some people who ask the husband the morning after having sexual relations with his wife about the virginity of his wife (the bride) saying : “Did you find your wife to be a virgin or not?” Is it permissible for him to respond to this question, even if the questioner was one of the man’s or the woman’s parents?

Answer:

It is neither permissible to ask this question nor respond to it, rather he must close the door to this affair in order to preserve the private affairs of the Muslims.  And to Allaah belongs all success, and may peace and blessings be upon our prophet Muhammad (salla Allaahu alaihi wa sallam), his family and his companions.


[Source: Fataawa almar’ah al-muslimah – Al-lajnaa ad-daa’imah – daar at-tawheed p.567]

Translated by: Abu Zainab Muhammad Al-Hindee